June 17, 2016 By: Kolby Meyers
Our friends at Calgary Boudoir Photography did a recent shoot that we just had to share with you. Here is what they had to say about one of their recent shoots with a mother 3 who loves her family and her body. This stunning mother and wife tells us all about why she decided to book a boudoir session and sends an important message about body image to all women.
We absolutely LOVED this boudoir session in our Calgary studio. This session mean so much to Mrs Y!
This is what she wrote to use when she contacted us;
“I am very interested in booking a session. It will be our 10th wedding anniversary in July and we both turn 30 in the next 6 months. We met -not a long story, promise :)- when we were 12, married at 19 and had our 3 kids before we were 26. Life has been busy and full for us. I am a recovered anorexic and battled the illness for many years. I am proud to say that I am finally learning to take care of myself regardless of weight. Our first son, Grayson was a very large baby which greatly changed my tiny frame. My husband supported me and has loved and made me feel beautiful always and I would like to give him this gift of photos where I feel confident and beautiful. I am now at my heaviest weight I have ever been (without being preggo) and want to be brave and do a photo shoot.
So I guess, I just wanted to share my goal in this photo shoot and ask if you are able to support it :). I have a 6 yr old girl and I want her never to learn that your body is ruined because of having babies. As my babies were my life savers. I want to be able to show my scars and love marks, in a sexy but also a “check out my kick ass body” way. I want to enter into my 30s fully accepting my whole me and loving every part of it :)”
My self confidence was based on how attractive my body was. I became very obsessed over my imperfections and felt less confident because I had flaws. My beliefs about my body and its purpose were like this before I had my first son. I struggled with Anorexia and was put into a recovery program at the age of 15 where I stayed for many months. It was a game changer in my life. I was able to look at myself for being more than a body. I had to completely change my thinking. It took hard work but I am so thankful that I did it. It has been a lifelong process that still requires work and my attention.
After I had a very large baby that greatly stretched my small frame I struggled. Only 21, I felt very uncomfortable in my own skin. My husband whom I’ve known since we were 12 was my support and my encouraging voice when all I did was criticize and beat myself up. I stayed on a healthy path mostly. Continually fighting my eating disorder and deciding everyday that I wanted a better life.
I now have two boys and a daughter. I am an example to all three of them. And the message that I want them to get from me is that I am not ashamed of my body because I have had children. Yes I have some fierce stretch marks and before I had babies I never would’ve imagined being happy with the body I have now. But my body is definitely beautiful. I am beautiful. I am a more accepting and gracious woman because I can love my own flaws. I look deeper into other people because I expect better from deeper within myself. I do not want my kids to think that there is anything wrong with a woman’s body that doesn’t fit the cultural norms and to be able to make decisions about people based on their character not just their looks.
I also want them to see that I love myself. How I look and all. I am proud of what my body has accomplished and what it can do. Woman’s bodies are amazing. Cellulite and all. They are beautiful. And they are even more beautiful with a smile on the face of the woman walking by. That shows she knows her worth.
After being married for 10 years and having the reassuring voice and presence of my husband. I wanted to treat him with pictures of me, enjoying my body and to say hello to my 30s with confidence and grace.
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